The Lesson In Braiding

braids2 My niece is getting married on Saturday.  My 17 year old daughter and 13 year son are both ushers.  This is their first experience being involved in a wedding.  Matter-a-fact,  this is their first wedding.  Not too many people I know are getting married. 

Although they are ushers, there is still work to be done to prepare for the wedding.  I had to rent a tux for my son and had a dress made for my daughter.  There were shoes to be purchased and hair to be done.   All pretty costly when you factor a gift too.  But my niece is worth it!

My daughter is a competitive swimmer and hair is most important to every African American woman especially a 17 year old teenager.  When swimming, she has routinely worn her hair naturally (as I do) and pulls it up in a bun.  She has been doing that for at least six years.  Its getting old.  But yesterday, I had her hair done (much like the picture shown above).  She was with the Stylist from 10:30 a.m. to 3:30 pm.  My daughter was seated patiently in her chair because this is what she wanted.  I must say…she looks great.

I wasn’t there the entire time waiting for her hair to be done.  I ran some errands and came back to the salon about one hour before the Stylist was completed.  While seated, I had an “aha” moment. I kept thinking how boring it must be to braid hair like this for so many hours.  The Stylist was patient and resolved in completing her task to perfection—one braid at a time.  I couldn’t fathom the process.  I wanted it to be done and I wasn’t the one doing it.  How could she stand doing this for so long?, I kept thinking.  Then, I realized something.  In every job (paid and unpaid), there are pitfalls; things that you must do whether you like or not to see the end result (in this case, beautiful hair).  There is no magic bullet that skips any process.  Once you try to skip, you end up doing it over again.  Therefore, wasting your time and energy (and in some cases money).  There is no value in being lazy—whether in action or process. 

The moral of the story for me is to take my time, learn to enjoy the process by keeping the end in mind.